What to text when he says he's not great at texting
How to respond when a guy admits he's bad at texting. Read what he's actually saying and reply in a way that keeps things moving.
When someone tells you upfront that they're not great at texting, they're doing two things at once. They're giving you a heads-up that his reply times will be slow or sparse. And they're also testing whether you'll bail on him for it, or whether you can handle something less text-heavy.
This isn't really about his typing skills. It's about whether he wants something lower-pressure than constant messaging. Some people just prefer phone calls or in-person time. Some people are busy. Some people are anxious about saying the wrong thing in writing.
A good reply shows you're relaxed about the messaging pace while making it clear you still want to see where this goes. You're not clingy, but you're not indifferent either. You open a door for him to connect in whatever way actually works for him.
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Slow texting usually means something else
If a guy tells you he's not great at texting, he's not confessing to a disability. He's either busy, prefers other ways of connecting, or feels nervous about saying the wrong thing in writing. The admission itself is actually a good sign. It means he's thinking about how his communication style might affect you, and he's trying to set expectations upfront instead of ghosting after two days.
What matters is whether he actually tries to reach out at all. Someone who texts slowly but consistently is showing interest. Someone who vanishes for a week and then sends a paragraph isn't bad at texting. He's not prioritizing you.
Keep your reply short and low-stakes
Your job is to signal two things without saying them out loud. First, you're not going to pressure him or get upset about late replies. Second, you still want to keep talking to him. You do this by matching his tone, keeping your response brief, and not asking multiple questions or setting up a big expectation.
Avoid the trap of being overly understanding or writing a long message back. That flips the script and makes him feel like he has to work harder to keep up. Just acknowledge what he said and move forward casually. Let him breathe.
Wait for him to text first next time
After you reply to this, let him initiate the next message. This is how you actually test whether he means it. If he reaches out again within a few days, even a short message, he's engaged. If he disappears for a week and then pops up with something random, you know he's not making you a priority.
If a full week passes with nothing, send one more message. Keep it light and specific, not desperate. Something tied to something you talked about. After that, stop. If he still doesn't reply, he's answered your question without words.
Why these replies fail
“haha no worries at all! take your time, no pressure from me. let me know whenever works for you”
You're so chill about it that he'll assume you don't care if he texts back, and he probably won't.
“that's totally fine! so anyway tell me about your family, what kind of music do you like, what are your hobbies? excited to get to know you!”
You're asking rapid-fire questions right after he said texting isn't his thing, which completely defeats the purpose of his message.
“oh that's so relatable honestly, i'm terrible at texting too. but you know what? we should just call instead! i'm free tuesday or thursday night”
You're shifting away from text before he's even shown he wants to keep going, and you're pushing for a commitment he didn't ask for.
Common mistakes
- Saying 'no worries' and then going silent, which reads like you don't actually care if he replies
- Over-reassuring him or being extra chatty, which puts pressure on him to match your energy
- Asking a bunch of follow-up questions, which makes texting feel like work
- Bringing up phone calls or meetings right away, which can feel pushy after he just admitted texting isn't his thing
- Treating it like a character flaw he needs to fix instead of just a preference
Questions people ask
- Does 'not great at texting' mean he's not interested?
- Not necessarily. It could mean he communicates better on calls or in person. The real test is whether he follows up at all in the next few days. A slow texter who reaches out is more interested than a fast texter who ghosts. Pay attention to his actions, not the excuse.
- Should i ask if he prefers calling instead?
- Not right now. Wait for him to suggest it or prove through his texting pattern that he's making an effort. Offering alternatives too quickly can feel like you're trying to make things easier for him when he hasn't earned that yet. Let him show you what he actually prefers through his behavior.
- What if he never texts back after i reply?
- Then he answered your question. He said he's not great at texting, and he meant it as a heads-up that he won't stay in touch much. Send one follow-up message after a week if you want. After that, move on. Slow texters still text people they care about.
- Is it bad to text him first if he takes a while to reply?
- It's fine to text first initially, but after his 'not great at texting' message, pull back. Let him reach out next to prove he's engaged. If you keep texting and he keeps slow-replying, you're doing the emotional labor for both of you. That's your sign to stop.
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