What to do when a girl is talking to another guy?

One chat with another guy tells you very little. What tells you more is the shape of her attention over a week. Does she reply within a few hours, ask you questions back, and bring up things you said earlier? Or does she answer in a sentence and let the thread drift? Compare how she engages with you against how she engages with others when you can see it, such as group chats or how quickly she responds to different people.

Her profile can help too. If she's still actively building her matches list, she may just be keeping options open at this stage. If she's stopped swiping or has removed the app, that's a different situation. Read the energy in what she writes rather than assuming a rival is in the picture. Often she is just busy, or unsure about you, and the other guy is a guess you're making to explain the silence.

The replies that work here do three things. They pick up something she already said, they ask a question with a real answer instead of a yes or no, and they carry the conversation a step toward a plan. A message that refers back to her own words feels like you were paying attention, and that is harder to compete with than any flirty line. A question about her actual life gives her an easy way to keep talking without having to decide anything.

What these replies should leave out is anything about the other guy, any comment on how often she's been online, and any statement about where you stand. Keep the energy relaxed and the ask small. If you can tie the conversation to a specific activity, such as the trivia night on her profile, you're giving her something concrete to say yes to.

After you've sent a good message, give it a real window. For most early conversations, a day or two of silence is normal and doesn't mean she's gone. If you haven't heard back after about two days, one short follow-up is reasonable, something light that doesn't ask her to explain herself. Then leave it alone for a week or more before trying again, and only if you have a reason to, like a new topic or an event.

The point to stop is when you've sent two or three messages without a real reply, or when she has answered only in ways that close the thread. At that stage, more messages make you look like you're waiting for her to notice you. Move on, keep your attention elsewhere, and let her come back on her own schedule. If she does, you'll be in a much stronger position than if you'd spent the week hovering.