What to do if he stops texting after you sent a long message

A message with four topics and a question at the end gives him four things to respond to, so he has to pick one or write something big. Tired or busy people often delay that choice until the moment passes. Read his earlier replies before deciding what the silence means. If he usually sends one line and this is the first time he has gone quiet, he may be overwhelmed rather than uninterested. If he has been matching your length all along and then drops off, the message may have landed heavier than you meant, or he may be asking himself whether he wants to keep up that pace. Check whether he answered the question you asked. If he skipped it, that tells you more than the silence does.

Your next message should give him a single thing to answer, and it should be the easiest possible thing. Pick the part of your long message that matters most and make it small enough to reply to in a few seconds. If you asked something big, like what he thinks about a major decision, ask a smaller version of it. Keep your message shorter than his last reply, even if you have more to say. Do not restate or summarize the long message, and do not explain why you wrote it. A light tone helps, and so does a specific detail from something he told you earlier, because it shows you were listening without asking him to prove anything.

Send the follow up during his normal waking hours, not late at night, when a short message can read as pressure. Give it at least a day, and ideally two, since a long message can take time to answer. If it is still quiet after that, send one more message, and make it a light close rather than another question. Something that is easy to answer with a single word works well. Then stop. Two follow ups with no response means he has chosen not to engage for now, and a third message only makes that clearer. Wait a week or two to see whether he picks the conversation up on his own. If he does, answer warmly and keep it short.