What to do when she says "I will think about it"
She's not saying no, but she's not saying yes. Learn what this actually means and how to reply without looking desperate.
When a girl says 'I will think about it', she's buying time. This happens after you've asked her out, proposed a plan, or suggested something that needs a yes or no. The message itself is neutral, but the delay is the real signal. It means she's uncertain, she wants to check her schedule, or she's keeping her options open.
Good replies accomplish two things. They show you're not sitting around waiting for her to decide your worth, and they make it easy for her to actually reach back out when she's made up her mind. You're not pushing harder or proving yourself. You're just setting a natural endpoint where the ball lands back in her court.
Timing matters more than the words here. How long you wait, whether you follow up at all, and when you stop texting back are the moves that matter. Get these wrong and you'll either look desperate or disappear too fast.
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She's keeping her options open or she's actually busy
This phrase sits in the middle ground. It's not 'no', so she hasn't rejected you. But it's not 'yes' either, so she hasn't committed. Usually she either needs to check her calendar, wants to see if something better comes up, or hasn't figured out if she's interested yet.
Don't read 'I will think about it' as interest. Read it as non-rejection. She's leaving the door open. The question is whether she walks through it or lets it close. Your job isn't to convince her the door is worth opening. Your job is to stay out of her way and let her decide.
Keep it short and set a concrete endpoint
Your reply should do two things. First, acknowledge what she said without asking her to explain or justify. Second, give her a specific moment when this needs to resolve. You don't have to say 'let me know by Thursday'. You can just mention when the plan needs to happen, which creates a natural deadline.
Don't reopen the pitch or add new reasons she should say yes. Don't ask clarifying questions. Don't tell her there's no pressure. Just show you heard her and move forward naturally. Short replies work better here. They signal you've got other things going on and you're not waiting.
Wait three to five days before you follow up
If she said she'll think about it on a Monday, don't text her Tuesday asking if she's thought about it. Give her actual space. Three to five days is the window where a follow-up makes sense. By then you're not chasing, you're just checking in because the thing is happening soon.
If she doesn't reply to your follow-up, don't send a third message. At that point you know where you stand. Stop initiating. If she comes back and says yes, great. If she ghosts, move on. The worst play is turning this into a three or four message thread where you keep asking. That's when you start looking desperate.
Why these replies fail
“Haha all good, no pressure at all! Let me know whenever you decide. I'm flexible with timing”
Saying 'no pressure' and 'I'm flexible' signals you're anxious about the rejection and will accept whatever crumbs she offers.
“Cool! Let me know what you're thinking. Also I could do Friday or Sunday if those work better for you?”
Adding new options signals you're trying to make it easier for her to say yes, which looks like you're chasing.
“Totally understand. I know you're probably super busy. Just text me whenever you figure it out!”
Sympathizing and giving her an easy out removes any reason for her to actually follow up.
Common mistakes
- Sending a long message defending why your plan is good (looks like you're trying to convince her)
- Following up the next day asking if she's decided yet (puts pressure on and shows you're waiting)
- Going silent completely and never texting back when she does decide (wastes the lead you built)
- Sending multiple options and asking her to pick (makes it about logistics instead of showing you care about her)
- Saying something like 'no pressure' or 'just let me know' (signals insecurity about the rejection risk)
Questions people ask
- How long should I wait before I follow up?
- Three to five days. That's long enough to show you're not desperate, but still tied to the original plan. If you were talking about Thursday and she hasn't answered by Tuesday, following up makes sense. If she doesn't answer the follow-up, stop texting and assume it's a no.
- Should I send a different message when I follow up?
- No. Don't restate your case or add new reasons. Just mention that the thing is coming up and ask a simple logistical question. 'Hey, are we still on for Thursday?' works. Don't reference her thinking about it or ask if she's made a decision yet.
- Does 'I will think about it' ever mean she's actually interested?
- Sometimes, but only if she's actually busy and needs to check her schedule. The signal you're looking for is whether she gets back to you at all, not how she phrases it. People who are interested follow up. People who aren't tend to ghost.
- What do I do if she never follows up?
- You stop. Don't send a third message. Don't bump it a week later. If she wanted to make it happen, she would've texted you back after your follow-up. Assume it's a no and move forward. Texting more looks desperate and kills any chance of her changing her mind later.
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