What to text back when she says she's been on dating apps a while

"Two years" plus "over it" usually means she's tired of the process, not that she's damaged or hard to date. The lol and the casual phrasing tell you she wants this to feel low stakes. Look at whether she's offering more detail or closing the door. If she gave you the number of years unprompted, she's probably fine with you asking one follow-up. If the message is short and wrapped up, she's signalling she doesn't want to unpack it yet.

You're also reading the profile, not only the text. If her bio says something that connects to this, like a joke about swiping or a line about wanting something real, the message is probably pointing at a mood she's already been carrying. That should make you more gentle, not more intense.

The move is to reflect the feeling in a sentence and then ask something she can answer with a few words. Pick up on fatigue or fed-up-ness, not on the specifics she hasn't given. Your job is to make it easy for her to keep talking if she wants to, and easy to change the subject if she doesn't.

Keep your own history out of it for now. A short reference to something you've been through is fine if it's a single line, but a full story turns the moment into a comparison. What she needs to feel is that you heard her, you're not going to make her justify the two years, and you're interested in talking to her and not to the app.

If she replies to your first message, keep the pace roughly even and don't pile on questions. If she doesn't reply within a day, that's normal on apps and usually says nothing about you. Send one short follow-up later, not a repeat of the same thing with more emphasis. A different angle, a light comment about something else in her profile, is better than asking whether she saw your message.

If there's still nothing after a second attempt spread over a few days, stop. Two unanswered messages on a dating app is a clear enough answer, and a third one turns into pressure.