What to do if they match with you then never reply

If she matched and never sent a word, read the profile before you read the silence. A match with no message often came from a swipe made in a few seconds. She may have liked one photo or a prompt she found funny, and never planned on a conversation. Her profile shows you what she would have talked about. Check what she wrote in the prompts, what she said about herself, and whether the app shows her as recently active. Someone who is active but ignoring you is a different case from a profile that has not been opened in two weeks. The first means she saw you and chose not to answer. The second means your message may be sitting unread in a dead inbox. Those call for different responses, and neither one needs a long apology.

The follow up has to make replying cheap. Pick one detail she wrote herself, such as a prompt answer, a place she mentions, a job, or a dog, and ask about it directly. Keep the question short enough that she could answer from her phone while waiting for a coffee. Avoid stacking two or three questions, because several questions in one text read like a form. Leave out any mention of the earlier message, any line saying you are checking in, and any comment on her not replying. Those lines turn the text into a question about her attention. The move is to show you read her profile and want one small answer back.

Give a match two or three days of quiet before you send anything more. Many people check these apps in bursts, and a fast second message looks like pressure. If the first follow up gets nothing, that is your one nudge, so send it in the afternoon or early evening when she is more likely to be scrolling. Late night messages look like impulses. If that also gets nothing, stop. Two unanswered messages is a clear answer, and a third one only makes the silence more uncomfortable for both of you. Leave the match where it is or unmatch, then put your attention on people who are answering.