What to do if she seems bothered by how much you text

Look at what she actually said before you decide what it means. If she named the volume, take her at her word. If she only went quiet or started replying with single words, she may not have said anything about texting at all, and you're guessing. A useful check is the gap. Have her replies gotten slower, or just shorter? Shorter at the same speed usually means she's still interested but tired of the format. Slower and shorter together usually means she's backing off. Pay attention to whether she ever starts a conversation herself, because that tells you more than your daily text count does.

Start by sending fewer messages, not by sending a different kind of message. Put your thoughts into one text that stands on its own instead of three short bursts that each need an answer. Keep the throwaway jokes for the next time you're talking in real time. Ask one question she can answer in a sentence, then stop. Don't follow it with a second question when she replies. The point is to let her decide when the next exchange happens. When she does reply, match her length, not your usual length. If she writes four words, four or five words back is a good answer. It shows you heard her without turning the conversation into a discussion about your texting habits.

One light message after a quiet day is fine. Make it something that doesn't need a long answer, like a comment about something she mentioned earlier or a plain question about her week. A second message with no reply is where most people go wrong, because it turns a slow spell into pressure. Don't send anything asking whether she's mad or whether you did something wrong. If she goes two weeks without starting a conversation and only answers with a word when you write, stop reaching out. Let her decide whether to pick it back up. Continuing to text at that point is the same problem you were already worried about, just louder.