What to do when he ignores your effort to make plans

Busy people still text back. They might say 'not this weekend but next Friday?' or 'swamped but let me check my calendar'. Silence in response to a specific plan is different. It's a non-answer, which is actually an answer. He's either testing to see if you'll keep chasing, or he's not making you a priority. Both mean the same thing for your next move. The gap between when you ask and when he responds, or doesn't, matters too. If three days pass and he texts about his day but skips over your plans, that's not a delayed response. That's a deliberate skip.

Your reply needs to pull the invitation off the table without being angry about it. Stop offering options and start asking for clarity. The move is to say something brief that forces his hand. Either he steps up and suggests something concrete, or he doesn't and you get your answer. Don't soften it with 'no worries' or 'anytime works for me'. Those words let him off the hook. Instead, pull back slightly in tone and give him one clear path forward. If he doesn't take it, you stop initiating.

This is the hard part. After you send a message that sets a boundary, you wait. Don't fill the silence with a new question or a funny meme or 'how was your day'. Let him sit with the choice you just gave him. If he doesn't respond within a week, he's told you what you need to know. At that point, stop texting. If he comes back around after radio silence, you can decide then if you want to re-engage. But don't send a 'checking in' text. That erases the boundary you just set.