How to text him after days of silence

A few days of no response could mean he's swamped and his phone isn't top of mind. Could mean he's interested but not eager, which is different from not interested. Could mean he's testing whether you'll keep trying. The problem is you can't always tell which one it is from the gap alone.

What matters more is the context before the silence. Did he seem into you? Were the conversations flowing? Was he the one who usually initiated? A guy who was engaged and then went dark is different from one who was always spotty. If this is a pattern, the silence means something. If it's new, it might just be circumstance. Either way, your response should assume good faith but not reward negligence.

Your message needs to do the work of re-engaging without making it seem like you've been sitting around. The move is to reference something specific from your last conversation or something real that made you think of him, then add something that's easy to respond to but not a dead-end question.

The tone should be warm but not apologetic. You're not sorry you exist or that you're texting. You're just being normal. Keep it short, one or two sentences max. A longer message looks like you're trying too hard to fix something. Short and specific reads like you just thought of something real.

Send during the day, ideally mid-morning or early afternoon on a weekday. Don't send late at night or on a Sunday, which reads like you're thinking about him when you're alone. Send it and then actually move on. Don't check your phone every thirty seconds.

If he responds within a day or two, things are probably fine and it was just life getting in the way. If he takes another few days to respond or sends something short and generic, that's your answer. You can try once more after that, but if it's a pattern of you putting in effort and him going silent, stop. Don't keep cycling through this. After a second slow response, redirect your energy.