She won't commit after three months of regular dates

After three months of regular dates, avoidance of commitment talk usually signals something. She's not seeing a future with you but doesn't want to end it yet. She's keeping you as an option while exploring someone else. Or she likes you but is scared of the label and hoping you'll just accept it.

The tell is how she responds to any mention of the future. Does she change the subject? Make a joke? Say she doesn't like to plan ahead? Does she talk about you in present tense only, as in we're having fun now, instead of future tense like I see us doing X? If commitment talk has come up and she's deflected every time, that's not flakiness. That's a choice.

State your position first. Not as a demand, but as fact. Then ask for hers. The move is to remove all the gray area she's been living in. She can't give you a non-answer if you're not asking a question she can dodge.

Don't phrase it as you asking what she wants. Phrase it as you telling her what you need, then giving her the space to match it or not. This flips the power dynamic back to you. You're not waiting for her to decide. You're deciding if she's worth waiting for. The tone should be calm and direct, like you're already okay with whatever answer comes.

If she doesn't reply within 24 hours, don't send another message. The silence is her answer. Give it three days total. If she comes back with a real answer in that window, you respond thoughtfully. If she ghosts or gives you a half-answer, that's the moment you decide if you're staying or leaving.

Don't ask follow-up questions if she dodges again. She heard you the first time. A second push just makes you look needy. Instead, pull back. Stop initiating. Match her effort exactly for two weeks. If nothing changes, it's time to end it or accept you're dating someone who won't commit and never will.