Should you text him again after a week of silence?

After a few days, silence could be busy, distracted, or he didn't see it. After a week, that excuse doesn't work. A week is enough time to check a phone. Enough time to think about whether he wants to reply. Silence at this point is a choice, not an accident.

This matters because it shifts what you're dealing with. You're not trying to nudge someone who forgot. You're trying to reach someone who already decided not to engage. That's a different situation. Recognizing it saves you from wasting more time on someone who isn't putting in effort.

A good second message does two things. First, it removes the awkwardness of the silence without calling attention to it or making him feel guilty. You're not reopening the old conversation. You're starting fresh, but lightly.

Second, it gives him an easy out if he doesn't want to reply. This sounds backwards, but it works. A message that says 'let me know if you want to grab coffee' is easier to ignore than one that feels needy or demanding. You want him to reply because he wants to, not because he feels obligated.

If you decide to text, do it once. Not twice. One message, sent on a regular day at a normal time, not late at night. Then you need a hard deadline. Give him three to five days. If he doesn't reply, you have your answer.

After that, move on. This is the hard part. Don't check if he's active on other apps. Don't send 'hey?' a week later. Don't manufacture a reason to reach out again. The whole point of a second message is to get closure, not to keep the door open forever. Once you've sent it, the next move is his.