How to respond when she says she doesn't text much

She's pre-emptively managing the gap between your texting styles. Most people text at different speeds and rhythms. When someone mentions it early, they're usually worried you'll interpret silence as disinterest. She's saying, 'I like you, but my texting doesn't mean what you think it means.' This is actually a good sign. She's being direct about a potential friction point instead of letting you sit with confusion.

What matters more than the words is the timing. If she brought this up after you've already texted back and forth, she's noticed you text often and wants to set a boundary. If she's saying it before much texting has happened, she's protecting the connection from a misreading.

Your reply should do two things. First, confirm you heard her and that it's fine. Second, redirect the energy toward actual plans or the next step in getting to know her. Don't get defensive, don't ask her to text more, don't volunteer that you're also a light texter. That last move especially kills momentum because it makes texting the topic instead of just a side channel.

Instead, use her comment as a natural bridge to moving offline. Say something that shows you're cool with her style and actually prefer being together in person anyway. Make it clear you're interested in her, not in optimizing a texting schedule.

After you send your reply, don't text her again unless she texts you first. This is critical. If you reply positively and then send another message the next day, you've just proved her point about needing space. Let her see that you meant what you said.

If she doesn't text you for days or a week, that's real information. It means the texting frequency she described is how she actually is. At that point, you can text once to suggest plans. If she still doesn't respond, move on. But if she does respond when you reach out with something concrete, you know she's interested, just not a frequent texter.