How to respond when he asks about your feelings

He's not looking for a therapy session. He wants to know if you're in or out, and whether you'll meet him halfway. The question 'what do you feel' often comes after he's shown some cards first, so he's looking for reciprocal movement, not a declaration.

Pay attention to how long you've been talking and whether he's already done things to earn your feelings. A guy asking this after two weeks of texting is different from one asking after you've already been on dates. Context matters. If he's moved toward you first. made plans, been consistent, opened up. he's earned a real answer. If he's mostly been chatty and vague, he's testing to see how much he can get without giving much.

Good replies here do two things at once. First, they answer his question directly without running from it. Don't dodge or redirect. Tell him something true about what you feel. Second, they leave him room to be curious about more.

The move is to be specific enough that he knows you're interested, but brief enough that the conversation doesn't peak on this text. Avoid the words 'love' or 'serious' unless you really mean them and he's earned them through time and consistency. Instead, use words that show momentum without closing the book. Then ask him something or invite him to do something together. Make him want to keep going.

Reply within a day, ideally within a few hours. Waiting three days looks like a power play and kills momentum. But don't reply while you're emotional or late at night. Wait until you're calm and can think.

If he doesn't reply to your honest answer, let it sit for two or three days before sending another text. If he ghosts entirely after you've answered honestly, he wasn't serious about the question. Don't send multiple texts trying to draw him out. One follow-up move is enough. After that, his silence is his answer.