How to ask someone out when they reply but never suggest dates

Look at what she's actually doing. She's answering quickly, asking things back, and keeping the thread alive. That's interest in the conversation. What's missing is any sign she's thinking about meeting, and that gap is worth taking seriously instead of explaining away.

Some people in this spot are shy about making the first move offline. Others are testing whether you'll make it. A few are chatting with several people and haven't decided. You can't tell which from the texts alone, so the useful question is whether anything in the messages points toward a plan. If she's never once mentioned a place, a time, or a shared activity, the conversation is probably comfortable in its current shape, and it may stay that way unless you change it.

The ask needs to name a real thing to do, a time or a rough window, and it needs to be easy to accept or decline without awkwardness. Tie it to something you've actually talked about and it has a reason to exist. A coffee, a walk, or a specific bar or market you both mentioned works far better than a general offer to get together.

Put the question out in the open. Give her a clear yes or no to answer, not a vague open door. If the invitation is hard to answer, she'll put it off, and putting it off is the most common way these conversations die without anyone saying no.

Send the ask on a day you're both active, not late at night when a casual message can read as heavier than you meant. If she replies warmly and suggests a time, you have a date. If she replies warmly and changes the subject, you have a soft no, and you can move on without fuss.

If she doesn't reply to the ask at all, wait several days before doing anything else. One follow-up in a light tone is reasonable if you've had no response. After that, stop. Continuing to press turns a simple question into a pursuit she never signed up for, and it tells you nothing new about her interest.