Ask her out when she mentions getting hit on constantly
She's tired of low-effort advances. Stand out by acknowledging her comment and proposing a specific plan that shows you see her as a person, not a match.
When someone says they've been hit on a lot, they're signaling that generic flattery and vague interest don't move them. They've heard it all. What they're also doing is giving you information: they notice patterns, they're probably a bit guarded, and they want to be treated differently.
A good reply here does two things at once. It shows you actually read what she said instead of launching into your pitch. And it pivots immediately to something concrete. You're not asking for permission to date her or trying to convince her you're different. You're just proposing a specific thing to do together, which proves you're different by simply doing it.
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When someone tells you they're tired of a pattern
She's not making small talk. She's telling you that the standard moves don't work on her anymore. This is actually useful information. It means she's screening for someone who pays attention and doesn't just copy-paste energy.
The mention of being hit on a lot is also a test of your reading comprehension. Does your reply show you understood what she said, or does it sound like you didn't even read it? Most guys fail here by launching into a compliment anyway, proving her point. She's telling you the bar is low. Meeting it is simple: acknowledge the pattern she named, then move past it by doing the one thing that proves you're not part of the pattern.
The reply that skips the pity play and just asks
Your job is to write one sentence that shows you heard her, then move directly to a specific date proposal. Not a question about her availability or interest. An actual suggestion: coffee Tuesday, drinks at this place, that kind of thing.
The key move is the speed. Don't spend two messages building rapport or asking questions about how often she gets approached. She already told you she's tired of that. Get to the point in the same message. Keep the whole thing short. Long replies here feel like you're trying to convince her, which makes you sound like everyone else who hit on her.
Send it soon and know when to walk away
Send this reply while the conversation is warm, ideally the same day or within 24 hours. If she says yes or gives you a time, you have a date. If she doesn't respond, send one follow-up text in 3-4 days with a different time option. That's it.
If she still doesn't respond after that, stop. She's not interested. Don't keep trying to say the right thing or prove yourself different. You already did. Silence after two solid asks means she's chosen to pursue something else. Accept it and move on.
Why these replies fail
“haha i bet. honestly most guys don't know how to have a real conversation. we should get coffee sometime so you can see what that looks like”
You're bonding over criticism of other guys instead of focusing on her, and the ask is still vague and self-promotional.
“that's crazy. well if you ever want to talk to someone who actually gets it, i'm here. no pressure though”
You're asking her to come to you instead of proposing something concrete, and the 'no pressure' sounds like you're hedging your own interest.
“i'm not like that lol. i actually read profiles. anyway, want to grab drinks?”
Saying you're not like other guys is the classic mistake, and your credibility is zero because you just proved you are.
Common mistakes
- Reassuring her that you're not like those guys (you sound like you are)
- Asking her out vaguely after acknowledging her comment (defeats the point)
- Making a joke about the other guys trying to one-up them (still focused on them, not her)
- Saying something like 'well clearly they're doing it wrong' (generic and self-serving)
- Going too long trying to prove yourself before the ask (she already knows you're different if you just ask)
Questions people ask
- Should i acknowledge that she's been hit on, or just ignore it and ask her out?
- Acknowledge it briefly in the same message, then move to the ask. Ignoring it looks like you didn't read her message. Spending too much time on it sounds pitying. One sentence that shows you heard her, then the date proposal.
- What if she brings it up because she's not interested and is trying to let me down easy?
- That's possible, but you won't know until you ask. Proposing a specific plan gives her a clear option to accept or decline. If she declines, you have your answer. If she doesn't respond after a second ask, same thing.
- How do i make my date proposal stand out given her comment?
- Pick something specific enough that it shows you thought about it. Not 'want to grab drinks' but 'there's a new cocktail bar on Fifth i've been meaning to check out, free Thursday?' Specificity signals you're not just asking everyone the same question.
- Should i compliment her despite what she said about being hit on?
- Skip the compliment in this message. You've got limited space and compliments are what she's tired of. Let the date go well, then compliment her later. Right now, the compliment is you proposing something real instead of words.
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