She wants to meet but keeps canceling or going silent

When she says she wants to meet but then ghosts or cancels, the first thing to understand is that saying yes costs her nothing. It feels good in the moment. She might mean it. She might also be keeping you warm while she figures out if she's actually interested, busy with someone else, or just not ready to meet anyone.

The real test happens when you give her a specific day and time. If she dodges that or goes silent, she's answering your question. It doesn't matter why. A person who wants to see you finds a way or suggests an alternative immediately. The absence of either one is the information you need.

Your reply has two jobs. First, you acknowledge the situation plainly without accusation. You're not mad, you're not confused, you just noticed she's not available. Second, you give her one more clear opportunity to make a move, but you don't chase. You suggest a specific window, not five options. If she's interested, she'll work with it or propose something else.

The tone matters. You're treating this like a normal logistical conversation, not like she owes you something. This keeps you in her head as someone with self-respect, not someone she can flake on without feeling anything. If she does come back with a real alternative, you take it. If she goes silent again or keeps excusing, you're done asking.

Send your reply when you would normally have sent the second attempt to meet. Don't wait for her to reach out again first. You're setting the terms, not waiting on her.

Give her about five to seven days to respond with a solid yes or a real alternative. If she sends excuses again with no new date, that's your answer. Don't reply. At that point, you've made your move twice and she's shown you where meeting ranks. It's time to talk to other people. If she comes back weeks later trying to reschedule, you can reply, but you're starting over. No momentum means no quick yes from you. She has to prove she actually wants this.