Facebook dating profile example

When a woman looks at your profile she is not reading it like a biography. She is scanning for a thread. A photo of you doing something, a prompt with an opinion in it, or a small odd detail all give her something to say first. If your profile offers nothing she can react to, she will swipe past it without much thought, even if you look good. So the diagnosis for a weak profile is usually not that you are unattractive or boring. It is that the profile is closed. Every element should give her a door. A specific prompt answer about a food you like, a trip you took, or a strong opinion about a small thing does more than three paragraphs about being ambitious and kind. She will also notice whether the photos match each other. If the first photo looks like a passport shot and the rest look like they were taken in different years, that tells her something too.

Each photo should answer a different question. The first photo answers 'what does this person look like,' so it should be a clear, recent picture of your face with good light. The second and third photos should show you in a setting that says something about your life, like outdoors, at a hobby, or with a dog, without making her hunt for your face. A group photo can work as a later photo if you are clearly identifiable and it is not the only shot showing you. Avoid anything where you are cropped out, far away, or in sunglasses in every shot. The goal is that after three or four photos she has a sense of your face, your energy, and what you do on a normal weekend. Do not stack five nearly identical selfies. Variety signals a fuller life, and it gives her more to comment on later.

A prompt answer works when someone could reply to it in one line without having to ask you a follow-up question. 'I'm a foodie' is a dead end. 'I will drive forty minutes for a specific bakery and I will not explain why' is something she can laugh at and ask about. Aim for one answer that shows humor, one that shows a real interest, and one that gives a small detail about how you spend time. Avoid listing traits you want her to see. Show them through a concrete example instead. Keep the answers short enough that they read in a glance. If a prompt answer takes more than two lines on a phone screen, it is probably doing too much. Edit it down until the single interesting thing is clear, because that is the part she will actually respond to.