Reply to 'we are the same type of weird if' Hinge answers
How to respond when someone matches with you over a quirky Hinge answer. Land the connection without trying too hard.
When someone opens with 'we are the same type of weird if...' they are doing real work. They read your answer, found something in it that felt true about themselves too, and decided to lead with that. This is not a generic compliment. They are saying 'I recognize this part of you because I have it.'
A good reply here does two things: it proves you actually are that type of weird, and it shows you caught what they were doing. You do not need to be clever or turn it into a bit. You need to match their willingness to be specific about themselves.
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This opener is not casual. They are not testing the waters or looking for a reason to message you. They saw something in your Hinge answer that matched something in them, and they had to say it. That takes a small amount of courage on an app where most people play it safe.
What they are signaling: they value honesty, they notice details, they are willing to be a bit odd in their own profile. Do not treat this like a generic 'hey, cute picture' message. They gave you a real read. The fact that they opened this way means they are looking for someone who will meet them there.
Prove the weirdness is real, not performed
Your reply needs to show a specific example of your actual weirdness. Not a funny riff on weirdness. Not a hypothetical. Not a turn of phrase. An actual thing you do or believe.
The second move is to make it clear you heard them. You can do this by adding something that connects to what they said, or by being specific enough about yourself that it shows you are not just nodding along. Do not over-explain the connection. Let them see it. A short example that lands is better than a long one that proves too much.
Send within a few hours, keep the door open
Send your reply while the conversation is still fresh. This is not a time to wait three days or play cool. They led with something real. A fast reply shows you are taking them seriously.
If they do not respond after your message, do not send a follow-up. They saw it. If they come back later, treat that as a second conversation and reply normally. Do not reference the delay. If this is the only exchange, that is fine. You did your job. Moving to a longer conversation happens next, but that is not the goal of the first reply.
Why these replies fail
“haha yes we definitely are! what else do you like to do?”
You agreed but added nothing about yourself, so it feels like you are just accepting a compliment instead of meeting them halfway
“lol okay but I sleep with my socks ON and I alphabetize my spice rack and I name my plants after philosophers. We are REALLY the same type of weird.”
You turned it into a competition by listing a bunch of quirks instead of sharing one specific example that mirrors their energy
“Wait, what do you mean by that? I'm curious what kind of weird you think we share”
You punted the conversation back to them when they already did the work of connecting to you. They want to hear about you, not explain themselves
Common mistakes
- Agreeing without adding any detail of your own weird, which makes it feel like you are just accepting a compliment
- Trying to out-weird them with something bigger or more shocking, turning it into a competition
- Asking 'what do you mean' or 'how so', which puts the work back on them when they already did the heavy lifting
- Launching into a long story about your weirdness instead of a quick one that mirrors their specificity
- Pivoting to small talk like 'so what do you do' without acknowledging the thing they actually said
Questions people ask
- Should I make a joke out of the weirdness they mentioned, or be serious?
- Be serious about it, but light in tone. They led with something real, so match that honesty. Humor is fine if it comes naturally, but do not hide behind a joke. They want to know if the thing they said actually applies to you.
- What if I do not actually relate to their specific example?
- Do not pretend. Instead, acknowledge what they said and share a different example of your own weirdness. You do not have to match their exact flavor of odd to land this. Show that you also think about the world in a strange way.
- How long should my reply be?
- Two to four sentences. Long enough to show you are serious and specific, short enough that you are not explaining yourself to death. Match their energy. If they were brief, be brief.
- Is it okay to ask them a question back?
- Yes, but only if it relates to the thing they said. Do not use a question just to keep the conversation going. If you want to know more about their weirdness, ask. But do your thing first.
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