How to text her about dating other people at the same time

If she doesn't reply for hours or a day, that's different from a quick response. A delay usually means she's uncomfortable with the directness or doesn't want to commit. If she replies with something like 'I'm really into you' or 'let's just see where this goes', she's avoiding the actual question. That's a signal that she either is still dating others and doesn't want to say it, or she's not ready to be exclusive and is hoping you'll drop it.

A straight answer, whether yes or no, is rare and clear. Most people hedge because they're protecting their options or they're unsure about what they want. Read what she actually wrote, not what you hope it means.

Your message should be short enough that she can't misread the tone as needy or angry. Say you've enjoyed spending time together, then ask the direct question. Don't add reasons why she should or shouldn't be dating others. Don't say 'I've deleted my apps' or make it about your feelings. Just ask what the situation is so you can decide what to do next.

Make it easy for her to say no. When you frame it as 'Are you still dating other people?' you're asking for a fact, not confessing love or demanding exclusivity. She can answer yes or no without feeling trapped.

Give her 24 to 48 hours to respond. If she goes longer than that without answering, that's your answer. Don't send a follow-up text saying 'Hello?' or 'Did you get my message?' That just looks anxious and makes her more likely to keep dodging.

If she gives you a straight answer, either yes or no, you know what to do next. If she dodges a second time or says something vague, you've learned that she won't have this conversation. At that point you decide whether to accept that or move on. Don't keep pushing the same question. You asked, you got your response, even if it's a non-response, and now you act on it.