How to text him you want to see each other more than once a month

Once a month is a pattern he's chosen. Not because he's busy or because he's bad at planning, but because it's the amount of effort he's putting in for you right now. That's the diagnosis. When someone wants to see you more, they do. They text mid-week about next weekend. They squeeze you in. The fact that you're thinking about bringing this up means you've already noticed the gap between what you want and what's happening.

Before you text, be real with yourself about what you actually expect. Do you want twice a month? Every other week? Weekly? Know the answer because he'll probably ask, even if he doesn't say it out loud.

Your message needs to be a statement, not a pitch. Don't list reasons why he should see you more. Don't ask if he thinks it's reasonable. Just tell him what you need from the dynamic. This puts the ball clearly in his court. He either wants to match that or he doesn't, and his response will tell you which one it is.

The move is to be specific about the frequency you want, not vague about wanting 'more time.' Specific requests get specific answers. Vague ones get vague responses that leave you confused in another month.

Send it during a normal part of the day when he's likely to actually read it, not at midnight. Then wait at least 24 hours before you worry. People need time to process conversations about where things are going, and he might need to think about his schedule or his feelings before he replies.

If it's been more than three days and he hasn't responded, that's also an answer. At that point you can send one follow-up that's light and simple, like 'Let me know what you think.' After that, stop. If he's not responding to something this direct, he's not going to get clearer later.