What to text when she says you only want her physically

This isn't a random insecurity. She's either picked up on real patterns in how you text or talk, or she's had this happen with someone else. If most of your conversations loop back to hooking up, meeting late, or compliments on her body, she's reading the room correctly. Even if that's not your whole interest, the signal you're sending is narrow.

Sometimes she's also screening you. She wants to know if you'll panic and disappear, or if you'll actually engage with the question. Her worry is a test of whether you can handle her emotional life.

The reply that lands mentions something specific you like about her that has nothing to do with looks or sex. A detail from a conversation you had. A thing she told you about her day or her life. The way she thinks or makes you laugh. The point is to prove you remember and value it.

Then name the worry directly instead of skating around it. Don't make her spell it out twice. When you do, keep it short. You're not writing an essay on your feelings. You're answering a direct question with proof.

Reply while the conversation is still live, not hours later. If she brings this up, she's in the headspace to hear your answer. Sitting on it makes it worse.

After you send it, don't follow up immediately with more texts or a shift back to flirting. Let her process. She needs to believe what you said, and that takes a minute. If she doesn't reply for a few hours or a day, that's normal. She's thinking about whether you meant it. Don't send a follow-up text. If she ghosts after a day or two with no reply, that's a sign the gap between what you showed and what she needed was too big.