What to text when she says she's not emotionally available

This is almost never about you. She's either going through something that took her bandwidth, or she doesn't feel enough chemistry to risk emotional energy. Both are fine. The word 'emotional' is key. She's not saying 'I hate you' or 'I'm not interested in dating'. She's saying her tank is low and she knows herself well enough to pause.

Pay attention to how she says it. Is she apologetic? Direct? Vague? If she sounds guilty, she cares about your feelings. If she sounds matter-of-fact, she's already decided this and doesn't need talking out of it. Either way, take her at her word. People who know themselves tend to be right about this.

First, release her from any guilt. She just told you something hard. If you act hurt, silent, or like she owes you a different answer, you make it about managing your feelings instead of respecting hers. A good reply says: got it, I hear you, no pressure.

Second, keep yourself intact. You're not disappearing or acting like you were never interested. You're just shifting to a lower gear. This means acknowledging what she said, being brief, and leaving the door open without camping outside it. You want her to know you're cool with this, not that you're secretly hoping she changes her mind next week.

Reply within a few hours of her message. Waiting too long looks like you're upset or processing hurt. Replying immediately can look like you're trying too hard to fix it. Same day is the right timing.

After you send your reply, do not text her for at least two to three weeks. No 'how are you', no memes, no reactions to her story. If she reaches out during that time, respond normally but keep it short. If three weeks pass with radio silence from her, that's your answer. Move on. If she comes back with more interest later, you can re-engage. The point is you're not checking in on her emotional availability every few days. That's not respecting the boundary she set. It's ignoring it while pretending you're not.