What to text when she says she's dealing with personal stuff

When someone tells you they're dealing with personal stuff, they're managing your expectations. They might be less available to text. They might take longer to reply. They might bail on plans or seem distant. She's giving you a heads up so you don't think it's about you.

She's not necessarily asking for advice, sympathy, or a long conversation about it. She's telling you because you're on her radar and she doesn't want you to think she's ghosting. That's actually a good sign. Someone who doesn't care won't bother explaining why they're quiet.

Your reply does two things at once. First, it shows you actually heard what she said. Not a blank acknowledgment, but something that lands like you're taking her seriously. Second, it takes pressure off. You're signaling that you're not going to bombard her with messages or expect fast replies while she's dealing with this.

Don't ask questions about what's going on. Don't try to cheer her up with jokes or memes. Don't make it about your feelings. Just say something short and real that tells her you're there without needing anything from her right now.

Send your reply within a few hours while the conversation is still current. Then step back. Give her space to handle what she's handling. Don't text her again unless she texts you first.

If you don't hear from her for a week or two, that's normal. She's dealing. If it stretches to a month with total silence, you can send one low-pressure text checking in. Keep it brief. If she doesn't respond to that, let it go. She's got stuff going on and you've shown you're cool about it. The move is patience, not persistence.