What to text when he asks to meet then ghosts you the day before

He had a plan with you. He went quiet. This tells you something about how he handles commitment and respect for other people's time, even small commitments. It doesn't tell you his life story, but it does tell you he's either disorganized, losing interest, or not that invested in following through.

Don't interpret the silence as him being busy at work or forgetful. Busy people still send a text. Forgetful people still remember plans they made. The silence is a choice, even if it's an unconscious one. That matters when you're deciding how to respond.

Your message needs to acknowledge the plan exists and that he's gone quiet, then hand him the ball back. Don't soften it so much that he can pretend nothing happened. Don't go hard enough that you sound angry. The move is to be straightforward and give him a specific, easy way to either confirm, reschedule, or explain.

This does two things. First, it makes him reckon with the fact that you noticed and care about your time. Second, it removes the scenario where he texts you an hour before the date asking 'still on?' like nothing happened. You're not playing that game.

Text him before noon the day you were supposed to meet, or the evening before if you need to know sooner to make other plans. Daylight hours matter because messages sent late at night or early morning can read as emotional or drunk, even if they're not.

Then wait. Give him at least a few hours to respond. If he doesn't text back by early evening, you have your answer. He either doesn't care enough to explain or reschedule, or he's hoping you'll disappear so he doesn't have to. At that point, you're done. Don't text again. Move on to other plans or other people. A second text reads as chasing.