What to text a match who says she's a professional dancer
How to reply when a match mentions being a professional dancer. Show you're interested without the obvious clichés.
When someone leads with 'I'm a professional dancer,' she's telling you something central to her identity and schedule. It's not small talk filler. She's also probably used to messages about her body, her flexibility, or terrible 'dancing' innuendos. Your job is to treat it like a real part of her life, not a novelty.
A good reply acknowledges the work side of dancing without making it all about performance or looks. You want to show you understand this is a job, a skill, and something she spends serious time on. Then you pivot to actual connection. Ask something that lets her talk about her world in a way that reveals personality, not just credentials.
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Professional dancer means rehearsals, performances, maybe teaching. Her availability is weird. Weekends might be booked. Evenings might be rehearsal time. She's not being coy when she mentions it. She's pre-emptively explaining why she might take a while to reply or can't meet on short notice.
It also means she's confident enough to lead with something real instead of a photo or a joke. She expects you to care about her work the way she does. Most guys don't. They make it about looks or ask her to do a backflip at the bar.
Show you see the work underneath the performance
Skip the obvious moves. Don't ask to see her dance or where her next show is unless you actually want to go. Instead, ask about the parts of her life that reveal something. How long has she been doing it. What drew her to it. What's the worst part about the job, not the art. Does she teach, choreograph, perform, or all three.
This works because you're treating her like a person with a profession, not a novelty. You're also giving her something real to talk about instead of describing herself for the hundredth time. People open up when they're asked about the less glamorous side of what they do.
Wait for her reply before mentioning dance again
Send your first message and let her answer. If she engages, you can ask a follow-up about her work. If she's lukewarm, move on. Don't double down with more dance questions thinking you'll hit on the right one.
If she replies but keeps it short, she's either busy or not that interested. A second message asking more about her schedule or gigs won't fix that. Let it sit for a day. If you want to meet up, suggest something flexible around her schedule and see if she bites. If she doesn't reply after 48 hours, stop texting.
Why these replies fail
“That's so cool! Can you teach me to dance sometime? I have two left feet lol”
Turns her profession into a favour and makes it about your bad dancing, not about her
“Wow, how flexible are you? Haha”
Sexualizes her body and ignores the actual skill and training involved
“Professional dancer is sick. What's your next performance I should check out?”
Assumes you'll show up to her gig without knowing anything about her or what she actually does
Common mistakes
- Asking if she can teach you to dance or making it sexual
- Complimenting her body or flexibility instead of the craft itself
- Treating it like a party trick and asking when her next 'show' is
- Ignoring it completely and messaging like she does anything else
- Asking 'what kind of dance' without following up on the actual answer
Questions people ask
- Should I ask what type of dance she does right away?
- Yes, but only if you actually want to know. Ask it as a real question, not a checkbox. 'What got you into contemporary?' works better than 'What type?' If she answers, follow up on something she said, not the category itself.
- Is it okay to mention I've never been to a live dance show?
- Only if you're actually considering it. Don't say it to seem interested. If it comes up naturally in conversation and you want to go, say so. She'll either invite you or tell you when her next performance is.
- What if she doesn't mention dancing again after her first message?
- Drop it. She put it in her profile or opener, you acknowledged it. If she wants to talk about work, she will. Assume she has plenty of people asking about her dancing and she might be relieved to talk about something else.
- How do I suggest meeting up when she has an unpredictable schedule?
- Be direct and flexible. 'I'd like to grab coffee. Are you free weekday mornings, or are your days all over the place?' This shows you understand her job requires planning, and you're willing to work around it. Don't ask 'whenever works for you' because that puts the burden on her to solve it.
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