What to text a guy you're getting to know

Right now he's trying to figure out if you're worth meeting or continuing to text. He's noticing whether you engage with what he actually says or just fire off generic questions. He's checking if conversations feel like work or if they flow. At this stage, most guys are juggling a few text threads, so your replies compete for his attention by being specific to him and easy to respond to. A text that references something he said, adds a detail about you, and invites him to share something back shows you're paying attention. That's what separates someone he'll want to meet from someone he'll eventually stop replying to.

Your reply should acknowledge his last message in a way that shows you actually read it. This doesn't mean quoting him back. It means responding to the tone or the specific thing he mentioned, then adding your own point or question. If he shares something about his weekend, you don't just ask "what did you do?". You comment on what he said, maybe connect it to something about yourself, and ask something that moves the conversation forward. A good draft should feel like the natural next thing you'd say to him in person. If your message could fit into any conversation with anyone, it probably isn't specific enough.

Send your reply within a few hours of his message if you're both online and the conversation is moving. Don't sit on it to seem busy. If he takes six hours to reply, you can too, but match his general pace rather than always being the first to text. If he stops responding to you for a couple of days, send one more short text that doesn't require much effort to answer. After that, stop. Guys who want to continue will circle back. Some won't, and that tells you what you need to know. Continuing to text someone who has gone quiet puts you in the position of chasing, which shifts the whole dynamic.