Text her when she says she's scared of commitment

She told you she likes you and then said she's scared. Those things are both true at once. Some people get anxious about moving from casual to defined, or they've been hurt before and their brain is protecting them, or they're dealing with other stuff that makes relationships feel risky right now. None of that means she's not into you.

What this statement actually says is that she's thinking about the future with you, at least enough to worry about it. She's also trying to warn you instead of just ghosting. That's a sign she respects you and doesn't want to lead you on blindly. Take it at face value without reading deeper despair into it.

A good reply has two parts. First, show you heard what she actually said, not what you wish she said. Second, remove the pressure by suggesting you figure it out as you go instead of solving it in text. Don't promise to wait forever and don't say 'no pressure' because that's what everyone says when there's pressure.

Instead, make it clear you like her and you're willing to move slowly or talk in person. The move is to treat her fear as something you can both work through together, not something she needs to hide or fix before you'll be interested. Keep it short so she doesn't feel like you're making a case.

If this text comes at night, wait until the next day to reply. She's probably already nervous and overthinking. Sending something back immediately can feel like you're either trying to lock her down or running away. A few hours of breathing room costs you nothing.

After you send your reply, don't follow up for at least a few days unless she responds first. She said something vulnerable and she's probably assessing how you handle it. If she doesn't text back within a week, move on. Silence here usually means she got the response she needed and decided to sit with it, or she's backing away. Either way, you've done your part by not making her discomfort about you.