What to say when she's talking to other people too
How to reply when she tells you she's seeing other people. Moves that keep you in the game without looking desperate or bitter.
When someone tells you they're talking to a few other people, they're running their own process. This is normal on dating apps, and she's being honest about it. What matters now is how you respond.
A good reply does two things: it shows you're not threatened by her dating others, and it reminds her why she should prioritize you. You're not trying to convince her to stop talking to people. You're just making sure she doesn't forget about you while she's exploring.
The worst move is to act hurt, demand exclusivity, or pretend you're fine when you're clearly not. She already told you what's happening. Your job is to stay calm and interesting.
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Try for freeShe's not rejecting you by telling you this
If she didn't want to keep talking to you, she wouldn't mention it. The fact that she brought it up means she values you enough to be honest. She's setting expectations so there's no nasty surprise later. That's actually a sign she sees something worth protecting.
What she's testing is whether you can handle the reality of dating without falling apart or getting weird. A lot of guys can't. They either pretend they don't care (unconvincingly) or they blow up. She's watching to see if you're solid enough to handle that she's exploring her options. Everyone is in the early stages.
Make her feel fine about saying it, then move on
Your reply needs to do two things. First, acknowledge what she said without making her regret telling you. Don't ask questions about the other people or make her defend herself. Second, shift the energy back to you and her. Reference something real from your conversations, make a light joke, or suggest something concrete you can do together. The goal is to be the one she's most interested in talking to, not to stop her from talking to others.
Keep it short. A paragraph at most. Longer replies can feel like you're working too hard to convince her.
Keep dating her actively until she chooses
Don't go silent just because she said she's talking to others. That's the opposite move. You should be the one making plans, sending interesting messages, and giving her reasons to prefer you. If you disappear, you've basically told her you're out. She'll assume you're annoyed and move on.
At the same time, don't text her constantly or act needy. Send things when you have something real to share. Suggest a date within the next few days. If she says yes, you're still in contention. If she keeps canceling or taking hours to respond, that's different information. You're gathering data about whether she's actually interested, not punishing her for being honest.
Why these replies fail
“Cool, I'm talking to other people too so no worries”
This reads like you're trying to make her jealous or prove you're not bothered, which usually lands as insecure posturing.
“Haha okay, well I'm obviously more interested in you than you are in me then”
This is passive aggressive and puts her in the position of having to reassure you, which kills her attraction.
“That's fine. Who are they? Are they from Hinge too?”
Interrogating her about the other people signals you're threatened and insecure, even if you don't mean to.
Common mistakes
- Saying you're cool with it when your tone reads as upset or passive aggressive
- Asking who they are or expressing jealousy about the competition
- Disappearing entirely to punish her for being honest
- Over explaining why she should pick you instead of them
- Matching her energy by telling her you're also talking to other people
Questions people ask
- Should I ask her to stop talking to other people?
- Not yet. You're not exclusive and you haven't had the conversation that leads there. Asking now puts pressure on her and makes you look like you're moving faster than the situation warrants. Keep dating her well. If there's real momentum, the exclusivity talk happens naturally when you've both had time to see what's there.
- Does this mean I should also keep dating other people?
- You probably are already, or you should be. Dating one person at a time early on limits your options and often makes you more anxious. Focus on the ones who are showing up and investing in you. If she comes around and you connect, that's when you reassess.
- How long should I wait to hear from her after I reply?
- Normal reply time is anywhere from a few minutes to a few hours. Don't read too much into speed at this stage. If she goes silent for multiple days after you reply, that's a sign she's moving her attention elsewhere. At that point you can send one more message or let it go, depending on how much you've invested.
- What if she keeps mentioning the other people she's talking to?
- If it comes up again, she might be looking for a reaction or testing your security. Don't give her one. Keep your replies brief and redirect to what's happening between you. If it becomes a pattern, it usually means she's comparing you to someone else. That's when you decide if you want to stick around or move on.
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