What to say when she's dating other people too
How to reply when she tells you she's talking to other guys. Stay calm, set your frame, and move the conversation forward.
When she mentions she's talking to other guys, she could be testing your reaction, being honest about her dating process, or signaling she's not ready to commit yet. It's a real moment, not a rejection. Your reply matters because it shows whether you're secure enough to keep moving forward or whether you'll panic and turn needy.
A good reply doesn't ignore what she said and doesn't overreact to it. It acknowledges the reality without making it weird, then steers the interaction toward the next step. You're showing her that you're dating too, or at least that you're not threatened by normal dating behavior.
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Try for freeWhy she told you this and what it actually means
Most women mention other guys because they're early in dating and keeping options open. Some tell you because they feel guilty and want to be honest. A few are testing whether you'll get insecure. Very few are trying to hurt you or say you don't matter.
When she says she's talking to other guys, she's usually saying "I like you but I'm not going to stop dating until we've been exclusive for a bit" or "I want you to know where you stand." It's not the same as her saying she doesn't see a future with you. Early dating is a numbers game for everyone. The fact that she's telling you instead of hiding it is often a sign she respects you.
Move past it without pretending it didn't happen
Your reply needs to do two things. First, acknowledge what she said so you're not acting like you didn't hear her or avoiding it. Second, keep the conversation moving forward toward the next date or call without making the other guys the topic. You're showing her that this is normal and that you're secure in your own position.
Don't ask her about them. Don't say "that's fine" in a hurt voice. Don't suddenly become aloof. Instead, agree with the reality of the situation in a low-key way. Maybe add something that shows you're not sitting around waiting. Then pivot to something concrete like making plans or asking a real question about her.
Send it within an hour and stay active on dating
Reply while you're doing something else, not immediately like you were waiting for her message. A reply within an hour or so shows you saw it and cared enough to respond. Anything longer starts to feel like you're hurt. And in the days after, actually go on dates with other people or at least be open about it if she asks. You can't tell her it doesn't bother you and then act like you're only seeing her.
If she doesn't respond to your reply, wait three days before trying again. If there's still nothing, move on. Don't send multiple messages after she tells you she's seeing other guys. That reads as desperation and will push her further away.
Why these replies fail
“Oh really? How many guys are we talking about here?”
Makes it about the other guys instead of keeping focus on you and her. Shows you're bothered enough to investigate.
“Cool. Well I'm talking to other girls too then so we're good”
Defensively matching her energy reads as insecure posturing. You end up competing instead of connecting.
“(no response, then hours later) Ok so I guess I'll just back off then”
Punishes her for being honest and makes the whole thing dramatic when it didn't need to be.
Common mistakes
- Getting defensive or accusing her of leading you on when she's just being honest
- Saying nothing and letting the message sit unanswered, which makes it bigger than it is
- Immediately asking about the other guys or demanding exclusivity
- Pretending you care less than you do by being overly casual or sarcastic
- Treating it like she rejected you and ghosting her in response
Questions people ask
- Does her telling me this mean she's not interested?
- Not necessarily. Many women tell guys they're dating around because they like them and want to be honest, or because they need to date a few people before knowing who they want. It's only a clear rejection if she says something like "I don't see this going anywhere" or stops responding.
- Should I tell her I'm dating other people too?
- Only if it's true. If you're actively dating other people, it's fine to mention it. If you're not, don't make it up. The goal is to show you're not threatened, not to prove you're busy.
- What if I really like her and want to be exclusive?
- You can want that, but asking for exclusivity after one conversation about this will push her away. Keep dating her, let things progress naturally over a few weeks or a month. If she starts pulling back or ghosting, then you have your answer.
- How long should I wait before bringing up exclusivity?
- Usually after 4 to 8 weeks of regular dates and consistent communication. If she's still talking to other guys after that and you've had time together, you can ask where she stands. Before that, asking often comes across as needy.
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