What to say when he says he wishes you were with him

When a guy says he wishes you were with him, he's usually in a moment where he's thinking about you without any prompt. Maybe he's doing something he thinks you'd enjoy, or he's just bored and you crossed his mind. What matters is that he said it out loud instead of just sitting with the feeling. That takes some vulnerability. He's put himself slightly on the line by admitting he wants your company. This isn't a casual text. At the same time, don't over-interpret. He's not necessarily planning your future. He's expressing a real emotion in the present moment, and he's testing whether you feel something similar. Your response will either confirm that this is a two-way pull or leave him unsure.

A good reply does two things. First, it confirms that his message landed. You acknowledge that you heard it and that it matters. Simply ignoring the sentiment or shifting the subject signals that you're not interested in this level of openness. Second, your reply shows that you have similar feelings without overdoing it. You don't need to match his energy word for word, but he should come away knowing the feeling is mutual, not one-sided. There's also a third layer, and it's harder. You stay in control of the conversation's pace. You don't just say 'me too' and wait for him to drive everything forward. You add something that moves the exchange somewhere. This might be a question, a reference to something specific, or a comment about when you'll actually see each other. This tells him you're interested and also engaged in real life outside this exchange.

Send your reply within a few hours, not immediately and not days later. Immediate replies can look desperate. Days later looks like you're just getting around to him. A few hours says you saw it, you thought about it, and you're responding with real feeling. After you send, don't follow up with another message if he doesn't reply right away. Let him respond at his own pace. If he stops texting altogether after your reply, that's information. He was testing the water and decided to pull back, or he got distracted. Either way, sending more messages won't change his mind. If he does reply, let the conversation build naturally. The goal isn't to keep him constantly telling you he misses you. It's to show him that missing each other can lead to actual plans. If weeks go by without him suggesting a real hangout, his texts about missing you are just talk, and you should pull your energy back.