What to do when she only texts you after drinking

She's reaching out because she likes you. That part is real. But she's doing it only when alcohol lowers her threshold for contact. When sober, something blocks her from initiating. Maybe it's nervousness, mixed signals from you, or honestly, you're lower priority. The drunk version is her unfiltered self, yes. But the sober silence is also her unfiltered self. Both are true. Both matter.

If she's always waiting for alcohol to text first, she's not building the habit of thinking of you during normal life. That's the problem. You need her reaching out on Tuesday afternoon, not Friday at 11pm.

Responding at 2am tells her you're available on her drunk timeline. Wait until the next day. If she sobers up and realizes she texted, a morning reply feels different than an immediate one. It's lighter and less enabling. The gap also gives her time to feel a little awkward, which is useful. She should feel some friction about the pattern if you want it to change.

When you do reply, keep it short and casual. Acknowledge what she said without making a big deal of it. Move toward something concrete like a real date or hangout plan. The move is to treat it like a normal text that deserves a response, not like a special drunk-text moment you've been waiting for.

If she reaches out drunk once, reply and suggest plans. If it happens again and she doesn't follow through on hangouts, reply one more time the same way. After that, you need to step back. Continuing to reply and engage teaches her the drunk text strategy works. You become the reliable sober responder to her unreliable drunk initiator.

Once you've given her two clear opportunities to shift into daytime contact or real plans, your next move is to focus elsewhere. If she texts again after you've pulled back, you can reply, but make it shorter. Let her experience what happens when drunk texting is your only move with someone. Either she'll shift, or she won't. That tells you everything.