What to do when she cancels twice and stops texting back

One cancellation happens to everyone. Two cancellations plus not responding to your last text is not a scheduling problem. If she wanted to reschedule, she would have suggested a time or said 'I'm slammed but let's do this weekend.' Instead you got radio silence.

This is her way of saying she doesn't want to keep going without the social cost of saying it out loud. She may feel bad about it. She may hate conflict. She may have lost interest the moment you met or the moment something else caught her attention. The reason matters less than the signal. Two cancellations plus silence is a no.

Send something that acknowledges the pattern, keeps your dignity, and makes it easy for her to respond if she actually wants to. The move is to be direct but not aggressive, and to leave the ball completely in her court. You're not asking for a long explanation. You're not asking her to prove herself. You're saying 'I notice what's happened, and here's what comes next if you want it.'

Avoid anything that sounds sad, angry, or like you're trying to figure out what went wrong. Skip the jokes that minimize what happened. Just name it, say what you'd want if she's in, and step back. That takes strength and keeps you from looking like you're waiting around.

Send your message and give it three to five days. If she doesn't respond in that window, she's not going to. Sending another text after that makes you look like you didn't hear her the first time. She heard you. She chose not to reply.

The hard part is actually stopping. The instinct is to send one more thing to clarify or to stay in her orbit in case she changes her mind. Don't. Move your mental energy somewhere else. If she comes back after a week or two, you can decide then if you still care, but you're not waiting and you're not checking in again.