What to do when he wants commitment but only texts late night

Late night and early morning texts often signal two things. Either he's avoiding having you visible in his daytime life, or you're the person he reaches out to when other options are quiet. Real commitment talk happens when someone is present during their actual day. It gets mentioned over lunch plans or during an afternoon call. It doesn't come at 1am followed by radio silence until the next late window.

Notice the timing pattern over the next few days. Is there any daylight contact, or does he only show up at the edges of his day? If it's only the edges, the words about commitment don't match the actions.

Your move is to break the late night cycle by not feeding it. When he texts at 11pm or 6am, you don't reply then. You reply the next afternoon or morning when you're awake and present. Keep the reply short and direct, acknowledging what he said without playing into the timing. Something that shows you take the commitment talk seriously enough to discuss it properly, not at odd hours.

This does two jobs at once. It shows him you have boundaries around your own time, and it creates a gap that makes the pattern visible. If he's serious, he'll notice and adjust. If he doesn't, you have your answer about how much this matters to him.

After you've replied once or twice during daylight hours, don't engage in deeper commitment talk until he initiates in daylight himself. This is the filter. If he really wants to build something with you, he'll text you like a partner does. Not like someone checking in from the margins.

If you go three to five days without any daylight contact, that tells you what you need to know. Stop waiting for the late night texts. You don't need to announce it or make a dramatic break. Just stop replying to the pattern. If he wants to show up in your actual life, he knows how to do it.