Tell her you want daily messages, not just random check-ins

Sporadic texting usually means she's busy and not prioritizing the connection, she's talking to other people and spreading her energy, or she just prefers low-contact communication. You can't know which without asking. The mistake is assuming it's about her capacity or interest level when it might just be her style.

Notice the pattern first. Is she texting less than she did in week one? Is she taking 6+ hours to reply during times she's usually available? Does she only text you after you text her first? These are different signals. Sporadic texting combined with slow replies when she's clearly online is different from sporadic texting because she's actually busy. Read the actual pattern before you speak up.

A solid reply does two separate things. First, it clearly names what you're looking for in a connection, framed as something about you ("I like daily contact") rather than something about her failings. Second, it stops talking and gives her space to respond honestly.

Don't ask for an explanation. Don't list examples of when she didn't text. Don't soften it with apologies. Just say what you want and see if she matches it or tells you she can't. If she goes quiet, you have your answer. If she starts texting more, that's also an answer. Make the ask simple enough that she can either say yes through her actions or no through her silence.

Send the message and then wait at least 3 to 5 days before you interpret her response. One day proves nothing. She might have a work deadline or family stuff going on. After a week, you'll see a pattern.

If she changes her texting behavior within those few days, match it and keep the rhythm going. If she stays sporadic or goes silent, you know she either can't do what you want or won't do it. At that point, you have two choices: accept the sporadic pattern and stop bringing it up, or step back and find someone whose communication style fits yours. Don't ask twice. One clear ask is enough.