Text him you need clarity on whether he wants a relationship

He shows up, makes you feel good in the moment, but never talks about the future. Or he does talk about it but keeps it hypothetical. Weeks pass. You're sleeping together, meeting friends, but he avoids any conversation about what this is building toward.

This isn't always a sign he's uninterested. Sometimes he's unsure. Sometimes he's avoiding the conversation because he knows what he'll say will disappoint you. Sometimes he thinks you're both on the same page when you're actually not. The only way to know is to ask directly and clearly.

A good text acknowledges that you value him and the time together. Then it states your actual need as a fact about you, not an accusation about him. You need to know if he's looking for commitment. That's reasonable. He either is or he isn't.

The move is to ask him to tell you the truth rather than guess. Don't list what he hasn't done (he hasn't introduced you to his family, he hasn't made plans past next week). Don't ask him to prove himself. Ask him to be honest about his intentions. Give him the option to say no without you having to interpret silence.

Send it when you're both likely to be available but not in a heated moment. Then let him sit with it for at least a few hours. If he doesn't respond by the next day, send one follow-up message only. Keep it short, something like "No pressure, just need to know." Then stop.

If he ghosts entirely, that's your answer. If he takes a week to respond or gives you a non-answer, that's also your answer. Don't wait indefinitely. Set a mental deadline of 48 to 72 hours and if you don't have clarity by then, you have the information you need to decide what comes next.