How to respond when she says guys never ask her questions

Most guys either monopolize the conversation or ask questions but forget to listen to the answers. She's probably had multiple conversations where a guy talked only about himself, his job, his weekend plans. She asked him questions. He answered and then pivoted back to himself. That's the pattern she's tired of.

When she brings it up now, she's not complaining about past guys. She's warning you that she notices. She's also showing you exactly what will make her feel good: reciprocal interest. The fact that she told you this means she's still in the conversation. She wouldn't bother telling a guy she's already written off.

Your reply needs to do two jobs at once. First, acknowledge what she said in one short sentence, then move directly to showing her you're different. Pick something she's already mentioned in your conversation. Not 'what do you do for work' if she's already answered it. Not 'what's your favorite food' which she hears from every guy. Look for the thing she brought up that revealed something about how she thinks or what she cares about.

Then ask a follow-up question that shows you were listening and actually curious. If she mentioned she hates her commute, don't ask 'how long is your commute,' ask something that follows the thread. The question should feel like a natural next part of the conversation, not a checkbox.

Reply soon after she says this. If you wait three hours to show you're interested, the message lands differently. She told you what she wants. Showing her you listen means responding while the conversation is still happening.

After you reply with a real question, the follow-up matters. If she answers, you have to actually respond to what she said, not use it as a launching pad to talk about yourself again. Match her message length roughly. If she writes two sentences, don't write a paragraph. Keep it feeling like a real back-and-forth, not an interview where one person is doing all the talking.