How to respond when she cancels with no plan

If she actually wanted to see you, she would say 'I'm so sorry, can we do tomorrow instead?' or at least 'I feel terrible, let me know when works for you next week.' The fact that she cancelled and stopped there tells you something. It could be that she's distracted and will come back around. But it could also mean she's not that interested and is seeing how hard you'll chase.

When someone cancels with no alternative, they're handing you space to step back. That space is not an insult. It's information. She's either actually swamped and expects you to understand that plans will come back up later, or she's cooling off and testing whether you'll stay invested without her doing any work.

The move here is to acknowledge her cancellation, make it clear you exist outside of her calendar, and create a reason for her to reach back out. You do this by being light about the cancellation, not offering to rearrange things for her, and slipping in something that signals you have other stuff going on.

Don't make her the centre of your world in your response. Don't say 'whenever you're free just let me know.' That hands her all the power and tells her you're sitting around waiting. Instead, assume you'll talk later and let her know you're not hanging on the outcome of one cancelled date. If she wants to reschedule, she knows how to text you.

Send your reply the same day or the next morning. Keep it short so you're not opening up a conversation. Then stop texting. This is the hard part. She cancelled, which means the ball is on her side of the court now. If she was just busy and still interested, she'll reach out in the next few days with a real alternative.

If a week passes with no message from her, you have your answer. At that point, don't send another text. You already replied. A second message looks like you're trying to convince her. Move on to someone who doesn't need reminding that you exist.