Tell her conversations feel one sided and ask for real back and forth

A conversation that feels one-sided tells you something clear. It means she is not asking follow-up questions about your life, your thoughts, or your experiences. She answers what you ask but does not reciprocate the curiosity. This could mean she is not interested in you romantically, she is distracted or stressed, she is talking to someone else and you are lower priority, or she simply does not know how to have back-and-forth conversation. The reason matters less than the pattern itself. You cannot build real connection when only one person is reaching. She may seem polite or friendly. That is not the same as interested. A person interested in you wants to know things about you, and that wanting shows up in the questions she asks.

You are doing two things at once. First, you are naming the imbalance clearly enough that she understands you have noticed it. Not vaguely. Not as a joke. She needs to know this is real feedback. Second, you are stating what you actually want from her. Real back-and-forth means she asks about your day, your opinions, what matters to you. You are not asking her to perform or chase you. You are asking her to show up as a full participant. Your reply should avoid blame language. Do not say you feel ignored or say she only talks about herself. Instead, say what you notice and what you need. The tone should be calm and direct, like you are naming something you both can see if she is paying attention. You are giving her one clean chance to engage differently. If she does, she will feel the permission and usually step up quickly. If she does not, you have your answer.

Send this after you have noticed the pattern over at least three or four exchanges. Do not send it after a single short reply. Send it when you have solid evidence, not a hunch. Send it during the day when she is likely to see it and respond with some thought, not late at night. After you send it, wait at least 24 hours for a reply. Do not send follow-up messages or try to soften it. If she does not reply in 24 to 48 hours, she has given you your answer. She either does not want to engage that way or she does not want to engage with you. If she replies but the conversation stays one-sided after this, do not bring it up again. One conversation about it is your move. After that, continuing to invest is on you. If she shifts and starts asking real questions, match her energy and have the conversation you both wanted.